What’s Your Parenting Vision? Module 2

Welcome back to What’s Your Parenting Vision? In Module 2 we begin to explore your values, to look at what is really and truly important to you! Get ready to have some fun! Please share with us in the comments section below any insights you might have had in the past week, anything you became aware of, or any questions you might have. We are here to support you!

 

MODULE 2

  • Vision as Values
  • Exercise 2

Vision as Values

What are your values? Values, together with our wishes, hopes and dreams (next section) drive our vision and thus our actions towards that vision. Our values drive us in life…they impact how we each see life, do life and experience life.

  • Our goal, as thriving human beings, is to live a life that is consistent with our values for living authentically with who we are and what is most important to us, brings us a sense of joy, ease and wellbeing.

Our values are those things we believe are most important in life. We often judge others and ourselves by our values. We see life through the lenses of our values. Our values drive the choices we make and how we tend to live our lives, including how we parent our children. Sometimes we forget our values and act out of alignment with what is truly important to us. This can create a feeling of distress.

  • When we are living authentically with our values, things seem to flow!

Clarifying our values can help us not only create a vision for our own lives but also for how we wish to parent for we often feel out of control, unsure and overwhelmed in our parenting roles. Having a clear sense of our values, and thus our vision, can give us something to always come back to and refocus on when the going gets tough…as it often does in parenting!

Exercise 2 Clarify Your Values

  • Challenge Yourself!

Start a list of your values, of what is truly important to you in life. Start with the ones that you are most aware of, the ones off the top of your head. Don’t stress about this!

If you feel stuck, think:

  • What do I most wish to teach or pass on to my children?
  • What do I most wish for my children when they grow up?
  • What characteristic do I most wish to see in my child 20 years from now?

You should be able to identify your values in your answers! For example if in 20 years you most hope your child is happy, kind and genuine your reflected values might be happiness, generosity and honesty. If you most wish to pass onto your child that great things can be accomplished by hard work you may value commitment and perseverance along with hard work.

You might also look back at your life and ask yourself when was I most happy, proud or fulfilled in my life and why? Then identify your values in those answers as well.

  • Go fishing in your own answers to identify and create a list of your values!

Have fun with it, Go!

  • Share With Us: Share some of your identified values with us in the comments section below. Values are both personal and universal: we each have our own set that is most meaningful to us yet we can also ‘steal’ from one another those that we may have overlooked.

Get Ready! In Part II we will look at your hopes and dreams and create your family’s vision statement.

Upcoming Topics:

  • How to parent your strong-willed child
  • Boundaries, Limits and Consequences
  • How to increase your energy for parenting & find more time for yourself!

4 Comments

  1. Amanda Johnson

    I think it’s interesting that I want my children to be some of the things that I am most proud of in myself, and I want to better them in some areas in which I am weak. I’m equally determined in these areas. I guess that’s one of the perks of having children when you are not very young- you have lived long enough to realize what you are lacking and you can try to give your own children a better shot at those things.

    • Beautifully said. Parenting is such a growth opportunity for us for when we are willing to see where we are not living authentically with what we say is important (i.e. weak areas), it allows us to stretch ourselves in that direction and to grow! 🙂 To stretch ourselves so that we can model that value, so that we can create structures in our lives that support it! I acknowledge you for your willingness to look within, to do the self inquiry which doesn’t always have pretty answers, and then to share it with us. We can all learn so much from each other, we can enrich each other through our experiences. I look forward to hearing what’s on your list, if you will be up for sharing it, as you create it. Enjoy the process!

  2. Jennifer Kaplan

    What do I most wish to teach or pass on to my children?
    -kindness, empathy, doing good deeds for others, always being nice to people no matter who – from neighbor to cashier to bank teller to family, etc., a zest for life, appreciating the little things, focusing on what really matters, belief in self, people are inherently good, personal strength, confidence, emotional health, sharing your feelings, importance of family, importance of education, follow your dreams, work hard, have fun, remember that anything is possible!

    What do I most wish for my children when they grow up?
    happiness! inner peace. emotional health/wellbeing/intelligence! healthy and loving relationships. open communication.

    What characteristic do I most wish to see in my child 20 years from now?
    big hearted, good-doer, kind, nurturing, loving, warm, happy, successful, lots of friends/people that love them (educated, do what they love, make a difference, make $), confident, outspoken, loves life!

  3. Jennifer – this is great! Now go fishing in your answers and begin to generate a list of your values!